Anger management or better said a healthy anger management is one of the most important qualities any human being can have. Allowing anger to control our actions basically makes us powerless. Buddhism teaches us that anger challenged us to look deeply into ourselves and understand ourselves. So, when you deal with anger, clarify for yourself you’re the needs that is created by your mind. It’s important to understand that anger is something created by our mind. We tend to think that anger is caused by something outside ourselves, such as other people “wrong doing””bad judgment” or disappointing events. But the fact is that no one makes you angry, but ourselves. It is not what happens to us but what we make of it that makes all the difference. It is our unfulfilled needs and expectation that makes us angry.
Buddhism teaches patience and mindfulness. Being mindful of ourselves and patience with ourselves is key part of that philosophy. When an unpleasant feeling or thought arises, do not suppress it, run away from it, or avoid it. Instead, observe and face it and fully acknowledge it. Once acknowledge the feeling, then process it by understanding the need and desire underneath the anger. Understand and accept the need that is not met. It is important to being honest with yourself about yourself and clear about your need. Based on Buddhism this factor is the main factor to grow and have a healthy life.
To solve the problem of anger we first need to recognize the anger within our mind, acknowledge how it harms both ourselves and others, and understand the importance of patience and being less reactive. It is not easy to be patient in the face of difficulties, yet we need to appreciate its benefits. Practicing patience is the answer to anger and allows us to overcome its negative consequences.
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