spiral2grow marriage family therapy, a leading provider of couples counseling and marriage therapy in New York City (NYC), can help you build healthy sexual and intimate marriages. We consider physical sexuality and emotional intimacy as key elements in any healthy relationship and important factor in successful marriage. spiral2grow, located in midtown Manhattan at 260 Madison Avenue #8023, New York, NY 10016, offers proven marriage counseling, couples therapy, individual counseling and psychotherapy..

Sexuality in Marriage and intimate Relationship

Sex is the most intimate form of connection available for many of us. It can be also deeply personal and even secretive aspect of our lives and relationships. Our attitude, belief and values may define the way we feel about our sexuality. We may feel very vulnerable or very free about it. Creating and maintaining healthy sexual intimacy can foster greater emotional connection and intimacy in other parts of the relationship. At the same time, relational problems can impact sex lives.

While some sexual problems are simple to treat many sexual challenges may be complex, which require the therapist to holistically understand the physiological, mental, psychological, relational and contextual issues. Many couple therapists feel that if you treat the couple communication issues, the sex will fix itself. At times, I find that the opposite is true as well – that the sex difficulties are an important foundation, and if you treat that the communications improve. While improving intimacy and emotional connection may lead to improved sex life, other factors must be considered. Today more than ever, couples must address their sexual needs and even challenge their sexual dilemmas.

While discussing sexual issue may be an uncomfortable topic for many clients and even therapists to talk about, it is critical to have the courage to resolve sexual problems so couples will engaged in a more fulfilling and loving relationship. Therapist must create an atmosphere in their sessions that would give clients the safety and comfort to talk about anything or bring up sexual issues. Emotionally Focused Therapy provides a safe context in which to explore your sexual intimacy and concerns.

While many therapists avoid addressing sexual experiences because they are not equipped to deal with it and they may be afraid of losing the clients, it is important to directly (and respectfully) ask clients about their sex life (sexual concerns, sexual side effect etc.) as it is important element in intimate relationship. Often a couple’s sex life reflects and is impacts the couple’s feelings of closeness, safety, and being valued.

Through the counseling process we can address the following sexual issues:

• Unlock sexual barriers, particularly after having kids or getting older
• Develop the courage to take emotional risks and enhance erotic bonds
• Provide long-term sexual and intimacy strategies rather than short-term and quick fixes
• Overcome sexual and erotic blocks stemming from insecurity, shame, fear, guilt and trauma
• Learn to communicate sexual needs in a respectful way
• Gain a greater understanding of porn, kink and other atypical sexual behaviors
• Tap into greater sexual domains (fantasies and deeper connections)
• Other sexual issues that may be discussed in marriage counseling includes:
  sex-starved marriages, premature ejaculation, impotence, delayed ejaculation, issue of sexual desire, unsatisfying sex, “must-do” sex, compulsive sexual behaviors, sex and religion dilemmas. Also, recovering your sex life and establishing safety after a sexual affair is also a focus of therapy.