Imago couples counseling, developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly is one method (Getting the Love You Want: a guide for couples) that proposes a constructive way to understand and work with the struggles to emerge stronger and happier. Other effective relationship methods include: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Susan Johnson, Gottman Method, developed by John Gottman, spiral2grow and their couples counselors utilize the mentioned methods and others to ultimately create a customized solution that is best of practice and effective. See more here.
Loving relationship is built on respect and mutuality. Mutuality and compromise as well as healthy communication skills are the antidote to power struggles. This is why it is in your own relationship’s best interests to build a win-win relationship and not to control others. When one of you loses, so does the relationship. Committing to resolving the power struggle opens a space for deep communication, empathy, safety, healing on the journey to loving relationships.