Having high standards or striving for excellence is a good thing as it show a desire to grow and develop your character. It can also push you to reach your peak level of performance. Perfectionism, on the other hand, is setting a standard that are so high that they either cannot be met, or can be met at a great cost, even destructive cost. The underline belief under perfectionism that anything short of perfection is terrible and a failure, and that even minor imperfections will lead to negative consequences.
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Dealing with Perfectionism
Perfectionism is one of the most common symptoms of low self esteem and confidence. Perfectionism can destructively chip away at your healthy self-esteem. There is a definite relationship between the need to be perfect and low self-esteem. People who “need” to look at themselves and expect nothing less than perfection with everything they do, are setting themselves up for self-sabotage. Perfectionism is a central block to happiness, preventing our ability to relax and accept the imperfection of the here and now. The more you accept imperfection, the more joy you will give and receive. That can be done with humility and self compassion.
Abraham Maslow in his book “ Motivation and Personality wrote: “There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, in fact, great. There do in fact exist creators, seers, sages, saints, shakers, and movers… even if they are uncommon and do not come by the dozen. And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed. To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it.”