Recovery After an Affair
spiral2grow Marriage Family Therapy, a leading provider in helping couples recover after an affair, has marriage counselors and couples therapists in New York City that assist couples in crisis, overcoming of infidelity and extramarital affair, while rebuilding trust and healthy relationships. spiral2grow, located in midtown Manhattan at 260 Madison #8023, New York, NY 10016, offers proven infidelity counseling.
Over the years I have developed a reputation as a relationship and affair recovery expert. I have participated in radio and TV shows and have been quoted in many newspapers and magazines. Some of the media channels that I have been featured in include: The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, USA Today, Showtime, CNN, Telemundo, Huffington Post, National Public Radio (NPR) and Psychology Today.
At spiral2grow, we help people heal from the pain of affairs and betrayal. Our programs are research based with a solid curriculum. It is based on strength based approach and a collaborative support to provide safety and guidance toward recovery for both couples and individuals. Our program is created by clinical professionals, expert in overcoming an affair.
Infidelity therapy is definitely not on anyone’s bucket list. Unfortunately, cheating is a thing that happens sometimes. Meaning that the affected couple will need a set of tools to evaluate their relationship. If they agree that their partnership is worth fighting for, the couple will need guidance to save and strengthen their bond. So how can affair or infidelity counseling help a couple navigate the feelings of guilt, betrayal, pain and broken trust? Can it help the couple go through the healing process and come out the other side with a stronger relationship? The answer is yes.
For over 15 years I have been helping and guiding individuals and couples in the New York City area cure the suffering of an affair. With my professional guidance and support, both partners can take vigilant, deliberate steps toward rebuilding the marriage. I believe that many relationships and marriages can overcome infidelity and an affair. As strange as it may sound, an affair can be a blessing in disguise. With hard work and commitment to go through the difficult steps of healing, a couple may find a way to emerge stronger than ever before and be mutually more fulfilled.
Ernest Hemingway once said “The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” Yes, an affair is overwhelming and even devastating. The foundation your world is stand on has broken when you reveal that your spouse has been unfaithful. The betrayal is impossible to bear. The emotional roller coaster is overwhelming and the level of hurt and anger at your partner’s cheating cannot be described. It simply does not make sense and even harder it is hard to accept.
Navigating your way through the chaos of affair is like diving underwater in the dark. You want to breathe but don’t know if you’re going up or down. You lost your orientation and not sure if you are making progress or drowning. spiral2grow, has treated many couples with similar struggles and challenges you face. More importantly, we can show you the necessary steps for finding your way back to the surface. Yes, it wont be easy, but it is absolutely possible with your commitment and out guidance.
The revelation of an affair brings so many questions. Questions you have never even considered asking, even when you heard of other people’s infidelities. Now, that you experience it first hand, you may ask yourself whether your whole relationship has been a lie; whether you were a fool to trust your partner; whether you will ever be able to trust again. You wonder what is right and what is wrong. You question your judgment. You wonder what is wrong with you, or if you could have done something different to prevent the affair. You may blame yourself, your partner, the person had an affair with. You may even blame the world. It is a painful awakening of losing the naivety of life; facing a betrayal. Now, it becomes personal and you wonder if you will ever recover from this shocking discovery of your spouse’s affair.
If you are the one who had the affair, you may wonder how you ended up doing what you have done and betraying your loved one. You are not sure what is all about and what is the meaning of your affair. Was it just sex, or maybe it was also an emotional, intimate experience that you are not sure you want to give up. In addition, you feel guilty and awful at having hurt your partner so deeply. You may also feel ashamed and prefer to put the infidelity as far back and never even remember what you have done. You simply want to move forward and rebuild what has been destroyed. Yet, you know it wont be as easy as you would like it to be.
At this difficult time, you are probably not sure how to deal with your overpowering emotions and don’t know what to do. If you still want to stay in the marriage, you find it hard to imagine how this relationship can heal from infidelity, overcome the pain and move forward. It is very normal to have all these questions with no answers. Yet, in infidelity counseling (marriage or couples therapy), you will have the opportunity to share your feelings and questions about the affair in a safe and secure environment and find resolution to the challenges that come with the infidelity.