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Recovery After an Affair

spiral2grow Marriage Family Therapy, a leading provider in helping couples recover after an affair, has marriage counselors and couples therapists in New York City that assist couples in crisis, overcoming of infidelity and extramarital affair, while rebuilding trust and healthy relationships. spiral2grow, located in midtown Manhattan at 260 Madison #8023, New York, NY 10016, offers proven infidelity counseling.

Ernest Hemingway once said “The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”

An affair is devastating. Your world is turned upside down when you reveal that your husband or wife has been unfaithful. The emotional roller coaster is overwhelming and the level of hurt and anger at your partner’s cheating cannot be described.

The discovery of an affair brings so many deep questions. Questions you have never even considered asking, even when you heard of other people’s infidelities. Now that you experience it first hand, you may ask yourself whether your whole relationship has been a lie; whether you were foolish to trust your partner; whether you will ever be able to trust again. You wonder what is wrong with you, or if you could have done something different to prevent the affair. There is a painful awakening of losing the naivety of life; facing a betrayal. Now, it becomes personal and you wonder if you will ever recover from this shocking discovery of your partner’s infidelity.

If you are the one who had the affair, you may wonder how exactly you ended up betraying your loved one. You are not sure what the affair meant to you. Was it just sex, or maybe it was also an emotional, intimate experience that you are not sure you want to give up. In addition, you feel guilty and awful at having hurt your partner so deeply. You also feel ashamed and prefer to put the affair far behind, so you will be able to move forward and rebuild what has been destroyed.

At this difficult time, you are probably not sure how to deal with your overpowering emotions and don’t know what to do. If you still want to stay in the marriage, you find it hard to imagine how this relationship can heal from infidelity, overcome the pain and move forward. It is very normal to have all these questions with no answers. Yet, in infidelity counseling (marriage or couples therapy), you will have the opportunity to share your feelings and questions about the affair in a safe and secure environment and find resolution to the challenges that come with the infidelity.

For over 15 years I have been helping and guiding individuals and couples in the New York City area cure the suffering of an affair. With my professional guidance and support, both partners can take vigilant, deliberate steps toward rebuilding the marriage. I believe that many relationships and marriages can overcome infidelity and an affair. As strange as it may sound, an affair can be a blessing in disguise. With hard work and commitment to go through the difficult steps of healing, a couple may find a way to emerge stronger than ever before and be mutually more fulfilled.

Over the years I have developed a reputation as a relationship and infidelity expert. I have participated in radio and TV shows and have been quoted in many newspapers and magazines. Some of the media channels that I have been featured in include: The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, USA Today, Showtime, CNN, Telemundo, Huffington Post, National Public Radio (NPR) and Psychology Today.

  • Infidelity Counselling After an Affair?
    • Individuals and couples respond differently to an affair. Regardless of how the response is, it is hard to deal with its emotional roller coaster, challenging to process it as well as overcoming the overwhelming emotional difficulties. If couples are not able to manage this crisis by themselves, and many cannot, it is recommended to seek help of marriage therapist who an expert in infidelity and affair.
    • The process of infidelity counseling after an affair allows each person to air their grievances and express how they’ve been hurt by the other in a safe environment with a couples therapist present. The therapist will facilitate communication and understanding. After the events and facts are fairly understood (not necessary accepted), you can then go deeper to recognize and appreciate what emotional and psychological dynamics were at play that led to the affair. Thereafter, you’ll start the process of learning new healthier ways to relate to each other that cultivate a sense of trust, connection and intimacy.
    • An affair is one of the biggest betrayals we may experience. But if you are willing to work on the relationship, the journey of healing can be transformative, changing both of you to become a better partner and a better persons — even if you decide to go your separate ways after all.
More about Recover After and Affair and Infidelity
Resources
  • After the affair by Janis Spring - Book
  • What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John Gottman
  • Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love - by Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, and Susan L.
  • The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships - by John Gottman
  • Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples -  by Harville Hendrix


Resources

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in New York City
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