Humans are decision making creators. They make decisions all the time. What to eat, what to dress, what to do, what to say or not to say, how to act or how not to act. The decisions are done all the time consciously or unconsciously. Unfortunately, there are people who often believe they have NO choice in how they ultimately think about themselves and their situation. These people mostly feel as victims.
Yet, it is important to know that at any give situation, no matter how bad it is, you have the power to view the situation in a constructive way that works to your long term benefit. If you change your thoughts about yourself and the situation, you can transform the way you feel and behave. In other words, your thoughts dictate the way you experience life for the good or for the bad. So, why not adapt positive attitude and positive thinking?
The sooner you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness, the sooner you can consciously choose thoughts that support your positive self esteem and self confidence. When you realize that no external conditions or factors (no other person, no drugs, no alcohol, no material possession etc.) can make you happy or unhappy, you become responsible for your own fulfillment. With that in mind, you can start choosing thoughts and believes that support your well-being. It would require awareness of the thoughts you are thinking that prevent you from your feeling good about yourself.
The first step toward feeling good is to notice when you are being critical and judgmental of yourself. This is what is called being emotionally intelligence and aware of your thoughts. Then make the choice to strengthen your brain pathways that supports healthy self esteem by choosing new positive thoughts and focusing your attention on them. Every time you change your thoughts to constructive ones, you create new healthier pathways in your brain that upgrade the software in your brain. Every time you do the change, you choose to be happy and send a clear message to your brain that says: “I am the only one who can make myself happy or miserable, therefore, I choose to do what is needed to make me happy.”!”
This does not mean that there won’t be times when you are sad, upset or confronted with fear. However, it does mean that you focus on your ability to make yourself happy. It means that you build your self esteem and confidence. You become more aware of your feelings, identify the thoughts (What are you telling yourself about the situation?) that result in your feelings bad, and then shift your attention to thoughts supporting positive self esteem and positive outcome.
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