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Anger is a primitive emotion that is fundamental to human survival and functioning. Emotions are inherently essential as a feedback mechanism to our position and serve as signals to where we are in comparison to where we want to be. In other words, it let us know where we stand in regards to our needs or goals.
Anger is powerful emotion. It is a strong discontentment that is often the result of lack of control or unfulfilled desires and expectations. The feeling of anger is manifested when we feel we have no control over the situation and when our need is not met. And as such, drive us to correct the situation to fulfill our needs.
Anger drives us to act immediately and forcefully. Similar to a survival situation, when we need to automatically strike our “enemy’ in a dangerous time or when someone hurts us, the anger emotion intensely motivates us to act and change the situation toward our desired outcome.
Even though angry behavior makes us feel strong and in control, the angry behavior, in fact, makes us weak as we allowed the emotion to dictate us the way we act. By acting in an aggressive behavior, such as yelling, raising voice, becoming violent or abusive or even avoiding confrontation, we hurt others and mainly we hurt ourselves. When anger amplify and becomes chronic and intense, it becomes destructive, carries negative consequences and being problematic, while effecting the quality of life and relationships we have.
Unhealthy anger is can be expressed in the following way:
On the other hand, the following are healthy ways to express anger:
If your anger is out of control or chronic and if it impacts your relationships and your life, you might consider anger counseling or anger management program to learn how to handle anger better.
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