Every time you shift your thinking and choose a positive and constructive attitude, you upgrade the software of your mind and build your self esteem. You send a clear message to your brain that says: “I am responsible for my attitude and happiness and choose to do what it takes to be fulfilled.”
This does not mean that there won’t be times when you are confronted with fear of failure or success, or that you won’t, on occasion, question your ability. What it does mean is that as soon as you notice you are feeling” less than” or “not good enough” you will:
- Be aware and awake to your thoughts and feelings.
- Identify the thoughts that result in your feelings negatively.
(What are you telling yourself about the situation, which many times results of low self esteem?)
- Shift your attention to thoughts supporting healthy and constructive one (which build positive self esteem.)
Here is an example of how it works: It is the fall season and all of the leaves have fallen. A couple spends many hours working on their yard fixing it. The wife says to her husband, “We have really gotten a lot accomplished today.” She focuses on the action. The husband assesses that the yard will take at least another six- to eight hours of work, so he replies, “We haven’t even made a dent in it yet.” The wife says, “Well, we filled up 30 bags, and I think that’s great.” The husband says, “We have at least 60 more bags to go.”
Who do you think most enjoys doing the work? Who is more appreciative of the actual experience of raking leaves? If we could interview the wife and the husband, we would find that the wife actually appreciated the sunny, chilly day and the fitness involved in the rigorous work. She was able to see the progress being made. The husband, on the other hand, is on a mission to complete the task; therefore he is overwhelmed by the work and that’s all he can think about—the work that is left undone.
If you want to have a powerful, constructive and passionate life, then you need to focus on the positives. Why not focusing on what you want, rather on what you don’t want. Why not focusing on accepting yourself, rather than rejecting yourself. So, focus on the positives, rather than the negatives. Remember, your thoughts are the most powerful thing you own.
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